Managing Emotions When Things Don’t Go According to Plan

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Managing Emotions When Things Don’t Go According to Plan

We all know that life is unpredictable. One moment everything may be going great, and the next we’re hit with a curveball that throws our entire life off balance.  When something unexpected happens, it’s natural to experience a range of emotions. You may feel scared, sad, angry, or frustrated. These emotions are all normal, but they can be hard to manage when they’re constantly swirling around inside of us.  And when things don’t go according to plan, it’s easy to let our emotions get the best of us.

One of the most common emotions we experience when things don’t go according to plan is disappointment. This emotion can stem from anything from failing to meet our own high standards to experiencing a setback in our efforts.  We’ve all been there. You have a plan, you put in all the hard work, but for some inexplicable reason it doesn’t quite go according to plan. All your effort seems to have been for naught and you’re left feeling frustrated and disappointed.  

Frustration is another common emotion in difficult situations. This emotion is often caused by obstacles that prevent us from achieving our goals or reaching our desired outcome.  If you find yourself feeling angry, it’s important to do some self-reflection to determine what caused the anger. Once you know what’s driving your anger, you can start to develop a plan for managing it.

We’re bound to run into roadblocks and setbacks at some point, and how we deal with them can make all the difference. When something goes wrong and our plans are disrupted, it’s important that we don’t let our emotions get the better of us. 

Here are four tips for managing your emotions when things don’t go according to plan: 


  1. When facing a difficult situation, it is important to stay mindful of our thoughts and emotions. If we can stay aware of what is happening inside of us, we can better manage our reactions. For example, if we are feeling overwhelmed by a situation, we can take a few deep breaths and remind ourselves that everything is temporary.  We can view a setback as an opportunity to learn and develop.


        2.When we experience the emotion of frustration, it is important to focus on the positive aspects of the experience as a       balance to what we see as negative. If we take a moment to take in all the things we have going for us, we may be able to see a solution that will help us to feel better.


3. It’s often helpful to remind ourselves that we are not our emotions. If you’re feeling hurt or angry, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a bad person, that the situation is hopeless or that there isn’t something meaningful that could exist in the current experience. It could just mean that you’re experiencing a strong emotion right now and that it might take some time to ground yourself before applying a full assessment of the situation.


4. When we feel frustrated or angry, it’s not always the right time to fight or retreat. Instead, we can choose to take the emotions as a motivation to progress in our efforts. For example, when we feel disappointed or angry, we can choose to see this as a motivation to get back up and try again. 

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